YOLO

My generation drives me insane. Mainly the issues surrounding sex. Why do teenagers today treat it as something as simple as going to the dentist? "You haven't lost your virginity?!" It's like saying "You've never had your teeth professionally cleaned?!" It's almost as if my 'friends' are trying to make me feel bad because I value my body and the future bond between me and my husband.
What peaks my curiosity most is 'How'. How has it become so much a part of our culture today, that to be a man, you have to get laid, or to know that you love and you're loved, you have to sleep with you're boyfriend. It's not just pleasure, it's guilt. Embaressment. Shame even. How could it be SHAMEFUL to NOT have slept with anyone?
Now a question sits in my mind. Why have our parents not instilled the sanctity of purity in our minds? My parents of course have (I doubt I would be writing this otherwise) and I of course know more, but to the general population, it's not a big deal to keep your body pure, or to respect yourself and others.
It honestly scares me what is going to happen to this nation if the teenagers and young adults of today do not mature, and live real life.
So the acronym YOLO has brought up a lot of interesting quotes and discussions. People use it as an excuse to do stupid and health harming things like drugs or playing road kill (really fun but very scary game) ignore traffic laws (I saw YOLO spray painted on a stop sign once) or even dating/sex. People think because you can die at any moment, that you should risk your life and health. Just curious, doesn't that INCREASE your chances of dying? Isn't that what people want to AVOID? I thought because "YOLO", that we should use our short time on this earth to make it BETTER for people? Even though I will not be here to see my great great grand kids, I want them to have a fantastic life.
I realize that the focus of our current generation is to have fun and live life, but lets be honest here. Life isn't about that. I usually try to have the mindset that not everyone believes the same way I do, because of course, not everyone does. I can't use the argument that "You're going to hell if you sin." because first of all, that is increadibly accusing and I have no right to accuse, as I am just as imperfect as the next, and second, because not everyone is a christian. I truely believe in the after life and only one way to heaven, and have no problem saying that, but the best way to go about it is NOT to judge people and tell them that the only solution is to give in to my desires and beliefes. Who was ever won over by being accused and yelled at?
Back to my subject earlier, though most of the time I try to have a certain open mindset, this is a time I just cannot. Or will not. Either way, the word that describes our generation the best is 'selfish'.

I see what chaos and turmoil goes on in our world, and I do not understand how people can sit and do nothing. Oh yes, they can sit and complain constantly, and tell others what they think needs to be done, but who really does anything? Actions speak louder than words.
I was reading Psalm 4 the other day, and I came across some of the most understanding and encouraging of verses.

"2 Oh you sons of men, how long will my honor become my reproach?
How long will you love what is worthless and aim at deception?
3 But the Lord has set apart the godly man for Himself,
the Lord hears when I call him."

When we are discouraged by our peers treating us with disdain for not acting with the same shallow mindset as they do, think of those verses. So much can be pulled out of those verses! David is just as baffled as I am at the treatment of those who strive to do right and uplift others around them.

The purpose of my blog being to further a life sustaining enviornment, what was the point of this post? Why write about people judging your for your honorable actions (that was kind of a rabbit trail by the way)?
People do not understand how one little thing could completely change the direction of the world. One little white lie (we all know where this goes) then a kinda small lie, then a big lie until you are lying about everything. That destroys relationships and therefore ruins peoples lives! It can change the most upbeat person into a dark cloud of despair and emptyness. What happens to that person? They are obviously not a ball of life brightening the world with the light inside of them.
She's 18, a freshman in college, and she meets him. The boy who changes everything.
She grew up in a broken home because her parents couldn't hold things together. Her father cheated, so her mother left him. She was swapped back and forth between them, and all of her parents stress was taken out on her. She may have been the focus of her parents arguing, but she was not getting enough attention. Her parents focus was on themselves, not their daughter that they had a responsibility to raise and love and care for. So she spent her time looking for the right boy to change all of that. And she found him.
He grew up in a great home. His parents loved him, cared for him, gave him everything a boy could want. So what went wrong? Why did he sleep around and use girls for that one night weekend stand? His parents gave him that attention, they gave him everything he needed, or did they?
He hung out with his friends very regularly, his parents didn't know what type of guys they were, and they were so good at pretending his mom did not even give it a second thought. The influence he got from his friends was in no way a good one. The problem lay not where there was mistreatment, but no treatment at all.
Because of his outward behaviour, his parents felt no need to teach him about the dangers of his peers effect on his thinking.
So he met her, volurable, naiiv, desperate almost, and knew she would be an easy target. He asked her out, took her out on romantic dates, bought her presents and even told her he loved her. She would do anything to please him. She didn't want to lose him like she lost her parents.
They started being physically intimate early in their relationship, much to the urging of the love of her life. They were careful of course, but there is still the posibility of pregnancy. And it happens.
She is so scared at first, but she is sure he loves her, so she comes right out with it. He tells her he is going to leave if she doesn't get it taken care of. She can't lose him, so she drives to the clinic, has it taken care of, and leaves, devistated. They arent together much longer after that because of her depression and he eventually gets bored of her.
She goes on to get married later, her husband finds out, and again there is strain in the relationship. Not being taught to stick it out, things get tough and they end it. Her life continues in this pattern and she see's no hope anymore.
He goes on to sleep with more girls, not realizing he is doing this to cover up the pain of knowing he ended an innocent life, and hurt a girl more than words can express. So he hurts more girls and gets more depressed, lives crumble and life sucks.
All this because someone couldn't say no to immorality, and someone else didn't take a little extra time to show their son what it really means to be a man.
All of your decisions make a huge difference. All of them. Whether you decide not to go out with that one girl, whether you grab a donut instead of an apple and maybe even whether you say thank you or not to the cashier. People don't care anymore, they just want that momentary happiness. They don't think 'hey, is this going to make his day better or worse?'. Doing the easy thing isn't always the best choice.
Remember, You Only Live Once. Why think about that and realize, your neighbor only lives once, your best friend only lives once, your mom only lives once. When you take five minutes to make someone elses life better, it can make the biggest difference in the world. Start a chain reaction. You want change? Be the change you want to see in the world! (Ghandi) Think TWOLO (The World Only Lives Once) and be the difference, be the one the world remembers for the rest of time because you didn't do what she did, you did what YOU did.